Christian marriage

We’re Still Becoming Won
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We’re Still Becoming Won

It’s been a while.
When I first started Two Becoming Won, it was a place to share pieces of our life — the good, the messy, the moments that make marriage what it really is: a journey. Life got busy, as it tends to do.
Between work, family, and just living it all out in real time, writing took a back seat. But what didn’t stop is the growing, learning, and becoming.

Marriage isn’t a “one and done.” It’s a daily choice. It’s two imperfect people, choosing each other again and again, through all the seasons. That’s why I’m excited to pick this back up.

Two Becoming Won was never about being perfect.
It’s about being real — about encouraging each other to keep showing up, to keep loving deeper, and to keep building something stronger, even when (especially when) it isn’t easy.

Over the next few months, I’ll be sharing more:

  • honest reflections,
  • personal stories,
  • lessons learned (sometimes the hard way),
  • and practical ways to keep growing as partners.

I don’t have all the answers. But I believe in the journey.
And I believe marriage, done with grace and intention, is worth everything it asks of us.

If you’re here — whether you’re newly married, married-for-decades, or somewhere in between — I’m glad you are. Let’s keep becoming “won,” together.

Still becoming,

Rob

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Love When You Don’t Like

There have been times, if I were to be honest, when I have not liked my wife very much. By the same token, I’m sure there have been times when she disliked me a lot!

In our dislikes, however, we have always kept our love intact. You see, our love has more to do with our promises to each other that we made not only to each other, but more importantly, before God. If we are honor God with our marriage, then love must be at the forefront.

I believe that what C. S. Lewis said, can be applied to a marriage, especially during difficult times: “Do not waste your time bothering whether you “love” your neighbor; act as if you did.” There are times when a spouse may not feel particularly loving, because of some argument or disagreement. However, if in these moments we simply behave as if we love one another, in remembrance of our vows, we will actually come to love each other.

This is because our love is much more than feelings, which can fluctuate. True love has more to do with our actions. So, if I let my actions be the guide, my feelings will follow.

This may not always be easy, but doing the hard things will always lead to growth. We have definitely experienced this in our “woness.”

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Humility In Marriage

Think of your spouse more highly than yourself. Putting your spouse’s needs above your own builds equity in any marriage.

Looking to please your spouse rather than your own interests builds trust, intimacy and strengthens a marriage.

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Investing In Our Relationship

Taking time to celebrate us and our “woness” is something we live to do. So yesterday, we had an opportunity for an outing and we took advantage of it.

We really didn’t make any plans and neither of us were feeling something extravagant, so we just went on an impromptu lunch date.

Great company, fun conversation and time in each other’s gaze was all we needed to invest in our relationship bank.

My beautiful lunch date ❤️
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Thursday Marriage Tip

Find ways to serve one another. Don’t wait for your spouse to ask you for something that obviously needs to be done.