As a single man I was responsible only to my self.  I answered only to myself.  And I depended only on myself.  

Hanging out with buddies Friday or Saturday, cool!  Saturday morning golf, quick bite to eat, and movies?  Yes to all of the above.  Yes, some adjusting of other responsibilities may be needed but easy to do when you only have yourself to worry about.

But does this kind of self centeredness work in a marriage?  

Should living for what I want, how I want it and when I want it be the main focus in a marriage relationship ?  

The real answer to these questions is absolutely no, if you’re a believer in Jesus Christ.  But I have met some self professing Christians who put themselves ahead and above their spouses.     

 

Just as Christ focused not on Himself but on being obedient to God, (Philippians 2:5-8) so should us husbands give up our self centerdness and focus more on our wives.  Why?  Because when we say those magic words, “I do,” we give up the right to be a separate entity.  We are no longer two heart beats.  We are no longer two bodies but one.  Genesis 2:24 “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh.”

 

This my friends is the foundation of any marriage:  Two becoming one.  This the only way that you and your spouse can look at each other and say, “We won!”